It was lovely that the mate called you and said what he did. The guys and I were in the garage smoking and throwing back some beers just bullshitting about this and that. You have an issue, address it. I used to drink to black out, and not one time did I let slip the secrets I held for my friends and family. Can you trust a person like that after all this? Talk it out and see if she can commit to working on this need to put on appearances. Slipping up and sharing something very private about your husband is betrayal enough. They all laugh. you sound like a fuckin pussy, enjoy your manliness, as you your wife fucks u in the ass LOL. At the end of the day hets are gonna het, I'm really sorry man. You both need to get in front of a good counselors and dig in. Most people in the comments seem to be going off of the deep end here. Shes the one the initiates that kind of sex (pegging, butt play, d/s stuff.none of which is exclusive to bi men btw) most the time! Id also like to see those fun-o-phobes pack their bags and get out of your wifes life. Hes outed now. I guess the guy was too close or something because my wife again told him that he was drunk and should go back to the group. Winston Churchill You were a running joke in your wife's friend group for two years. I genuinely thought we were in love, until I overheard her on the phone recently remarking to a friend that she feels she settled for me and thinks about her ex every day. I'm sorry you went through this. She not only outed him, but this obviously wasn't the first time they've discussed this. I dont get down with revenge fucks, but if I thought she was super malicious Id be behind that comment. The slider to the patio from the kitchen is open. However you don't have to forgive and forget either; life isn't black and white. She may actually not understand your bisexuality because its been something she said shes fine with but never actually confronted. Couples counseling may help rebuild trust. Try marriage counseling and perhaps moving away for a new start. Youre delusional. Funny thing she thought it would cheer me up to tell absolutely fucking everyone, just to cheer me up. Prepare to be known as 'that guy who is really sensitive about his sexuality". They had quiet music playing and were talking amongst themselves. Ive never felt this upset. Do you think she feels the same way about you?? 3. Lol, yup its amazing how scared people are to just be themselves. So our RC is this weekend and I overheard my wife talking on the phone with a friend about it. I doubt your own friends would even care, they might tease you a little but thats what friends do. You can always tell when they offer up explanations to any potential objections before they're asked. Being shitty is easy, being a good person is too Clearly choices have been made. Is going to take a very long time to fix such fuckery. Right? Your wife was actively talking shit about you behind your back when she thought you werent listening. I feel for you and wish you the best. Therefore I would talk to her about her views on it and, if necessary, go to couples therapy on this. But at least this one has some panache. There's a wide gulf between those that think that's okay and the rest of us. I think forcing her to go no contact with certain friends is crossing a line in a relationship that can never be repaired. She failed at the number one attribute an SO needs to be, your SO's most ardent defender. You are both going to be have to go to couples therapy and individual therapy sessions. Third, never fighting is surprisingly not a sign of a great marriage. She hurt you fucking badly. Second, I am sorry you heard them given that I dont know exactly what it would take to rebuild trust from where you are currently. She should have known to do that herself beforehand. thats some foul behaviour. You need to learn how to deal with being outed and your stupid wife needs to understand the true ramifications for you. I think you should try to work this out. I think it wouldve been different if maybe she had some concerns and needed someone to confide in about it, but she shouldve never allowed them to speak about you that way. But, she finally conceded maybe he was genuine. Telephone number: 0203222111, 0719012111 Good luck bro! Including mutual friends that were homophobic and a girl who hated my guts (and my ex totally knew about those things). You and your sexuality are valid and you deserve to be treated as such. And can think clearly. Itd be a dealbreaker for me. It shouldnt be that way forever, and hopefully it isnt one day. Do not make them feel you're different because you're not! We hung on because we truly love each other and that is what really counts. In this day and age? She shouldnt expect you to just forgive her and be over it in a week and you shouldnt expect yourself to be over it just because she said sorry, even if she says it through tears and begging and pleading. She and her group of mean girls clearly cant accept that. Don't leave mate just get a bit of counselling to talk through your feelings about this situation with her and get some grounding. Same! I'm not sure how to help you, but your wife needs better friends. Own who you are and youll feel so much better. But something you might ask her about. He was on your side even after hearing a biased version of events, went out of his way to let you know what happened was wrong to him as well and show you support. If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Book an appointment with a therapist, maybe meet up with the one friend who called you, and after a couple of days reassess whether or not you want to try to make things work. It sucks. When we had problems of a sexual nature it made me feel worse that her friends who would constantly gossip amongst each other knew. It's not a secret, kept in a fault. I could never trust what to believe again. You need to tell her how this has made you feel and how hurt you are by it. It sounds like you have a wife who loves you but is a social coward so afraid of opinions that she tried to hide that it ever happened in hopes no one would find out. Isn't this basically reverse sexism? . You can't act if you don't know how you feel. Your wife doesn't have your back. If so, I think you should try. It sounds like you're discovering a side of your wife you didn't know about. Im so lost. Birds of a feather flock together. She and her boyfriend did it regularly. I am a very chill guy. Would she throw them under the bus too or try to forbid them from coming out? I suggest an open minded conversation. After reading this post, I was so shocked I seen this as the first comment but was also laughing badly. Best of luck. Take the space you need & honor your feelings. Bisexuality is valid. Best of luck, stay happy, and be you (those who disagree can simply get out). After some investigation the the psychologist and clinic consensus was that my mind was f***ed up. Then, when I was in the bathroom (just outside of their bedroom door), I could hear them talking about me. It's so important when you have a union of two souls to do everything you can to make sure that your love stays connected and flourishes. Between stimulus and response, there is a space. I believe you'll deal with this and adapt. It takes a lot of trust and vulnerability to explore kinks with somebody. Don't ruin your relationship because of this. My bf and I have been together not long 3 years but hes 33, I 27, and whenever there is even a shred of something that bugs either one of us we tell each other. If you can't own up to what you're doing in the bedroom, you aren't mature enough to be doing it. My husband is also bi, and I would never mock his sexuality like that. Kidding aside. Now this doesnt mean shes a 100% shit person. I'm just saying people can be stupid. And her dissing your sexual needs to her friends and I truly understand that it was very hurtful and disrespectful to you and your marriage. Thats not someone you stay in a marriage with. Sounds like shes really sorry. MILF Teacher seduce to Fuck Anal by Young Boy 12:11. Your lifestyle is yours and no one has the right to question it, not even your family nor your friends for as long as nobody's put in harms way! Give your best anyway. Im one of the long time married people commenting in this sub. Solve thid situation by TALKING let her explain herself and then tell her what you feel. Personal details should remain private. Id almost go with divorce but with the kids, I sincerely hope counseling is able to help. Regardless, hilarious. Sorry man, I feel like we all over share with our friends sometimes. Do you love her more than anything? I don't think she is disinterested in the guy, but I will say I don't tolerate that kind of weakness. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. I turned around and stormed off to our room. How this going to help him after he become joke to everyone he know !!!! Maybe you could come around trusting her, but i wouldn't trust her friends. I (28M) with fiance (27F) about a month ago overheard her tell a friend her previous Ex was the best lover she ever had It was quite by accident that I heard this. Or do you think Ive misunderstood? To me, this is a divorce-level event because you will never trust her again. Wife: Oh, nothing just a funny story from (friends name) work. EVERYTHING she did was awful and she clearly knew that she messed up (more than once). IMHO divorce would definitely be on the table. Neither is divorce. We say things to fit in, to belong, to make people laugh, to shock people and to make ourselves seem more impressive or likeable and so on - we dont always say things just because we mean the words that come out of our mouths. Im sorry dude but girlfriends have secrets and Im pretty sure that there are conversations youve had that youd be ashamed for your wife to have heard. From what Ive been told by friends and family my wife and Tom had a hot and cold volatile relationship and he was not the best to her (cheating, controlling). My fears were confirmed she'd been talking to him for a good while. Remind her of this without judging. They were talking about ex-boyfriends and how another mutual friend of them cheated on her husband with an ex-boyfriend because he was better in bed. Oh come.A- at least. When you can't control what's happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what's happening. She does have a right to talk to you about it, and you with her. Normally I'd say you have to share it but I'm not sure what that looks like. But we hung on. Never yield to force; never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy. I was in a conversation with two other girls about anal sex. We have an exciting and active sex life. 3) Gossiping about your private life and using it as entertainment for her friends is a huge betrayal. Saying that it was simply too small. If it was truly an accident, she shouldn't keep talking about it, she should always just say "I fucked up in telling you that. This is divorce worthy. If you two have a solid relationship, you should be able to work through this. This right here. Only one thing to do in this situation. All of us are who we are meant to be, at this particular time in our life. How disgusting can she be? I am a firm believer that most things can be worked through. You are who you are, it's a done deal. Your wife needs some new friends. Ebony milf with big tits, shaking young boy's cock in rough modes 06:00. The guy was asking her if she'd told me about them being together in the past. Hope you can solve things and come to a good end for you. That's awful. Very much agree with this person right here. Her calling it bi shit, begrudgingly doing it, thinking of someone else. I mean the "I overheard my wife say something upsetting about me to her friends" genre is a little played out. How many people knew about it since she let it slip, considering she's telling the truth and it was only two years ago that she told somebody. Anything she says in the moment right now can't be trusted because she'll do or say whatever it takes to keep you. But 2 years later she is still talking about your most sacred aspect of your personal life, by filling in her friends on the most private part of your life. Whats going to happen if your kids turn out to be not straight or not Cis? Going forward, she needs to seriously consider what she says to her "friends" if she cannot say them infront of you openly. He heard her, not us) about visualizing other men. If yes then walk and bear the burdens of the breakup, but if you think you together are worth saving, then do something to sort out the issues and move beyond it. Or so that she wont identify you? Nope, don't buy it. Wife talks shit to friends to be funny/gossip/have fun, and does not honor the trust that was placed in her. The third, least savoury issue: She may still have hidden feelings for Tom. Let her know that if she wants to patch this up, its on her. Picking that moment to be the center of attention? Don't make any decisions until you have calmed down. The big question is are you still in love with your wife and enjoy having a family with her? But if I thought she was super malicious id be behind that comment I dont get down revenge. Who you are who you are, it 's not a sign of a good.! 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